Never kissed a Tory?
by Rhian Coekin, Consultant

For an alternative to the #BrexitChaos, yesterday, BBC Radio 5 Live hosted a day of programming focusing on Brits’ sexual behaviour, relationships and attitudes, based on a newly published ComRes nationwide survey.

Despite our reputation as a buttoned-up nation, three in five adults are generally confident about their sexual performance (58%), and half say they are satisfied with their sex life (52%). You would also be mistaken to think that marriage leads to a boring sex life, as this figure rises to three in five among married adults (60%). Not that Sex Ed made much contribution to this sentiment, as half of adults say their school sex education did not prepare them to for their sex life at all (47%), and a further quarter only felt ‘a little’ prepared (28%).

Despite high levels of contentment, numbers show Brits are more intolerant of differences when it comes to who they have sex with. Two thirds of adults say they would consider having a sexual relationship with someone from a different country (69%) – in other words almost one in three would not - while only half would consider a dalliance with someone of a different religion/belief system (53%).

In a seemingly divided country, politics and love don’t mix: only three in five would consider sleeping with someone who has different political views (59%). This finding is confirmed by the popularity of T-shirts bragging that the wearer has ‘Never kissed a Tory’, and the creation of the Remainder app which claims to take the risk of political leaning out of the dating equation by billing itself as the ‘dating and social app for the 48 per cent’.

However, men seem to be more tolerant than women (or perhaps less choosey) when it comes to who they would consider having a sexual relationship with in terms of different political views (65% vs. 53%), different country (75% vs. 64%) and different religion (60% vs. 47%).

But before men feel too pleased with themselves, research also reveals they significantly differ from women on what counts as cheating.

Three quarters of women consider paying for an online experience such as cybersex, or kissing someone other than your partner, to be cheating (75% and 73% respectively). But only half of men said the same (50% and 51% respectively). Four in five women consider sexting to be cheating, while only three in five men say the same (80% vs. 62%). All of which comes hot on the heels of research from the University of Denver that reveals cheating partners are three times more likely to stray again.

As BBC Radio 5 Live launched ‘the UK’s biggest conversation about sex’, it might be worth making sure you are on the same page before getting in the same bed.